Many "Pro Doms" are Real Doms, and there are many reasons for men to visit them, such as...... They are married or involved and don't want to risk a relationship, but still want to play. They have a few fetishes, and want them satisfied, but do not want to serve as a submissive. They want to explore BDSM or fetish interests, in a safe environment. They don't know about the fetish communities and have no idea where to meet a Non Pro. They want the fantasy femdom, who is always dressed in leather, makeup and hair done, heels and stockings with her own dungeon and tons of toys, not a regular woman who might be wearing shorts and a tee shirt.

That being said..... There are tons of non pro femdom ladies out there, just waiting for the right sub to come along, but just because a guy says hey I am a sub, doesn't mean it will be a match.

How to meet and grow into a relationship with a female dominant.

    First and foremost, be realistic.....Chances are the dominant lady whom you meet will NOT look like the ones in the magazines, just like in vanilla life not everyone looks like they fell out of playboy. Dominant females come in all shapes, sizes, ages and colors. Don't assume that every female dominant out their will match with your interests, or desires. Don't assume she will have a full leather and latex wardrobe to slink around in for you, or a well stocked dungeon with mood lighting, Dominant females are normal people with normal lives, they have jobs, families, and friends. Also.... just because you state "hey I am a male sub looking" don't think you will be flooded with offers from ladies jumping at the chance to be with you. You have to earn their attention.

    Now, how do you earn their attention? Well, be a gentleman, be polite, be interesting, be clean and neat, no woman wants to be in the company of a rude, boorish, smelly guy. You see a lady at a event, ask someone you know if they know her and can introduce you to her, approach her and BE POLITE, do not call her mistress, do not kneel at her feet and say I want to be your slave. Tell her you admired her skill, or her hair or her eyes, or such from across the room and you wanted to meet her. If she is at a table, ask to join her (do not assume it is OK to park your tush down and start babbling). Ask her questions about herself, so you can learn about her. Do not make it like an interrogation or an interview. Do not blabber on about what you want her to do to you. Find out if she is perhaps seeking someone..... If she is keep talking..... . If not do not just bolt and run, be polite, be nice, perhaps she knows someone who is and if youâeTMre nice she might tell them about you. Oh yes, and be HONEST. If she is seeking someone, make yourself desirable without being slimy, ask her if she would care for a soda or a water, go get it.....make her see you could be useful in her life. Chat with her, find out some of her interests (not just S&M) if you are still interested and so is she, ask her if she would care to join you for coffee/lunch/ dinner, if she says yes, and offer her your phone number.

    So does a lot of this sound familiar? It's kind of like dating in the vanilla world? ThatâeTMs because it is, if you are looking for a relationship, not just a quick play partner, it is very much the same.